“It’s organized chaos. But, that’s the way it’s supposed to be, and when it works like this it’s amazing to watch. I’ve been in other places where it was just chaos. Here? It’s pretty special.” – Katy Chirichiello, Assistant General Manager, Toro Restaurant
So let me tell you a story about Jon Kay. Jon is a waiter at Toro Restaurant in Boston. He graduated from the Culinary Institute of America along with chef du cuisine Mike Smith. “Along with” works on two levels here considering that they attended at the same time, but they also followed the same educational path through the CIA: cooking and management.
One is a chef, and a damn good one. The other is, as I mentioned before, a waiter… and a damn good one.
“I like the front of the house,” Jon answered when I asked him if he ever thought about getting back in the kitchen. “I might go back to the kitchen one day, but I like serving people. I love talking to them about the food and wine.”
So, why does this story matter? It’s simple, really. A meal at Toro is better because Jon Kay is a waiter there. So is Kelly Walsh. So is John Stoddard, and others who I didn’t have the chance to speak with during my day at Toro. When the service staff loves what they do, life is better for everyone. Especially the diner!
A strange relationship
The relationship between diner and waiter can be a strange one. Anthony Bourdain has commented multiple times on how, when he goes to a nice restaurant, he “wants his waiter to like him” and is afraid that the waiter will somehow sense that maybe he doesn’t belong. It can be contentious depending on the personalities involved.
Really, the relationship itself is bizarre and unlike any other. John Stoddard and I talked about it briefly and he summed it up perfectly when he said, “If you work in an office, you don’t have someone just walk in off the street and start telling you what to do or telling you that you’re doing something wrong. So its kind of a strange relationship. For us, its our job. We’re there to help and we want to help. Once people realize that, it works out for the best.”
With the team assembled at Toro, it usually works out for the best.
Knowledge is power
Part of what makes the team at Toro exceptional is their food knowledge. Taking in to consideration the typical clientele of the restaurant – Toro is a regular haven for industry folk – you need to know what you’re talking about. To that end, the service staff gets regular support from chefs Jamie Bissonnette, Mike Smith, and General Manager Jen Fields. Speaking with Assistant General Manager, Katy Chirichiello, she outlined some of what goes on at Toro to help the service staff get geeked up on food knowledge:
“Every day there is some form of education. This can include anything. A menu or wine pop quiz. Tasting new food or wine, and learning where it comes from and what it consists of. Jamie or Mike might bring out new vegetables or herbs and talk about how they grow, what they taste like, what the ideal climate and growing season is for them. We also offer something called “wine words” which is every Thursday from September through May. On those days Jen might run a class on a new wine, might revisit old wines, or sometimes we’ll do a month of education just on sherry. Occasionally we’ll have wine and liquor reps coming in to teach a bit about their offerings. We also may even do a month where Dave Robinson from South End Formaggio will come in on a Thursday and teach about cheeses, or Jamie will go through the whole process of making our house made chorizo.”
Growing up, my restaurant experiences were mostly limited to those of the chain variety, and most weren’t of the more “classy” variety that exist today. Asking for a recommendation in one of these joints was at your own risk. The response almost universally included a sigh and occasionally an eye-roll (followed by a short prayer on my part). There was minimal knowledge (and barely any interest) in the food being served at those restaurants.
At Toro? No such concerns. The service staff knows food. They love food. They love talking about food. Just ask them!
Well oiled machine
As I mentioned in the first part of this series, I found a spot by the fireplace where I could quietly observe dinner service, and hopefully not get in the way. I was actually quite excited about this! Whenever I’ve dined out, I’ve always taken note of the work put in by those serving my table. But, rarely have I had the opportunity to pay close attention to an entire service staff. When dinner service began that day, I was mesmerized.
A few things to keep in mind. First, Toro is not a big place. They have seating for around 90 people, and that includes the patio. Second, they don’t take reservations. That means there will be folks milling around the bar, drinks in hand, waiting for a table. Third, Toro is one of the hottest spots in Boston. So those folks milling around the bar, drinks in hand? There are going to be a LOT of them.
I concluded the first part of this series by referring to dinner service as “poetry in motion”. Melodramatic it may have been, but it was amazing to watch. Servers quickly moving to and fro. Talking to diners. Getting orders. Putting orders in to the computer. A bell sounds, and a cook shouts, “Server!” Picking up plates. Grabbing drinks. Printing checks. And all the while, the staff is smiling. They’re actually smiling.
Conclusion… for now
The final moment that cemented in my mind the type of person that makes a good waiter was courtesy of Jon Kay. There had just been the now familiar shout of “Server!” Jon grabbed the plate, and paused as he was about to pass me, showing me what he was about to serve. It was the Asado de Huesos. “Beautiful, isn’t it?” Jon asked me. “Roasted bone marrow with a citrus salad and oxtail marmalade. One of my favorites.”
The service team at Toro is great at what they do because they love what they do. Period.
My day at Toro was almost beyond words. Even now, I look at what I’ve written and feel that it pales in comparison to the actual experience. I came in to that day with a desire to understand a little more about the food industry. What I left with, besides the understanding I desired, was a greater appreciation for the people that do it day in and day out. They are amazing, unbelievably dedicated people. It was an honor to have had the chance to sit in with the whole team. If they’re willing, I hope to see them again sooner than later, and have them put me to work. I want to learn more.
Toro is located at 1704 Washington Street in Boston, MA. They don’t take reservations, but trust me… they are worth the wait.